Personally, I did not really find the overall theme or message in David Sedaris’s essay, “Us and Them,” to be clear and straightforward. I understand it has something to do with the perception of people and the way they present themselves, and perhaps maybe even about the multiple different images the world provides, making some more irrelevant than others. I like the way the essay is structured; the beginning where Sedaris mentions the family moving frequently and not having the time or the intention of making friends for that reason, and the ending where the protagonist speaks about the different images that exist, are two very different topics but they all seem to come together throughout the essay. The different things discussed in this essay all provide a smooth transition to the next part of the essay.

The protagonist’s way of speaking about his feelings towards the Tomkey’s before and after the trick or treating incident provides a gateway to understanding his character better. When he says, “Wondering about the Tomkey family had made me feel generous, but now I would have to shift gears and find pleasure in hating them” (Sedaris 1), it makes me realize that the speaker is very judgmental and dramatic in a sense as well since he is able to hate a family for something as insignificant as having to give them his “earned” chocolate. Although his reaction may seem unrealistic and exaggerated, I actually have seen children act this way when they are asked to share something that belongs to them with other children. I can also tell that this character is very stubborn and careless as he says, “This was an old trick, designed to turn one’s hatred inward, and while I was determined not to fall for it, it was hard to shake the mental picture” (Sedaris 1). Although he understands his mother’s disciplinary tactics and how it is supposed to make him feel, he mentions that he was trying his best to not let it get to him. Although he knows that attempting to eat all the chocolate so he does not need to give any to the Tomkeys is wrong, he does not care and still believes that his actions are justified because it is his chocolate and they are a day late for trick or treating.

I don’t know if I can relate to this story on a personal level because I was never a stingy child and I definitely would never judge an entire family for straying from the conventional way of celebrating a holiday, but I do know a lot of people who would act the same way as the main character does. Overall, I think the story was interesting even though I do feel as if the main message of the essay is difficult to understand.