A tough experience I went through recently involved my two friends. One day I go over to my friend’s house because they wanted to hang out but I come inside to a huge argument being held in the living room. I hear Faith yelling about how Lindsey had went out on a date with Faith’s ex-boyfriend. Lindsey did not think to mention to Faith that she was currently seeing her ex because she felt it was not that important of a thing to mention. Faith on the other hand felt so betrayed by Lindsey due to her actions. She felt that her friendship with Lindsey did not mean anything to Lindsey because she kept this secret relationship from her. I did not know at that moment what I should do in this situation. I was frozen because I did not expect my friends to be arguing with each other as I entered into the house. The argument was elevating so I was mentally debating whether I should step in to stop this fight from getting any worse or just let it play out.
I decided to intervene by stepping in the middle of the two and shouted “HEY” as loud as I could since their fight was getting very heated that they did not even hear me enter. They both quieted down in that moment and turned to look at me. They tried to drag me into their argument but I was not about to be forced to take sides in this situation. I told them to take a sit and explain their sides of the story to me. I was going to act as the peacemaker in this situation. Faith was telling me about how hurt and betrayed she felt because Lindsey had started seeing her old boyfriend without asking if Faith was okay with the relationship in the first place. Lindsey did not think that it was that big of a situation where she would need to ask for permission to date someone. After hearing both sides of the story, I gave my thoughts about the problem at hand. I told them that Lindsey was slightly at fault because since she was best friends with Faith, she should have mentioned something to Faith instead of having Faith find out weeks later that she was dating her ex. It is just something you would tell your best friend. Also, Faith was acting a little overboard because her and her ex were long over so she should not be making such a great fuss over this situation. I told them that this was not something that was worth breaking up a friendship for.
After I voiced my opinions, the both of them seemed to calm down from their intense argument and thought over about what had happened. They realized that this was not something to end their friendship over so they settled things between them. Faith realized she cannot control who her friend dates and should just let her free to date whoever even if it is her old boyfriend. Lindsey realized that she was wrong to not have talked to Faith first about her relationship. It would have been the right thing to do. They grasped their argument was not meant to be blown into proportions and made up. Their friendship now was better after the issue was resolved. I would make the same choice I made last time because I do not want two of my closest friends to be in a fight because it puts a strain on everything. Having to choose sides is the worst thing for me. It is better to have the problem fixed than to have them continue being in a fight with each other. I know that it is better to have peace than hatred which is why I felt the need to fix things between them.